From tantrums to trauma, this blog covers modern child psychology, emotional growth, and how parents can create safe, connected relationships with their children.
Discover powerful parenting insights from Scripted India’s latest episode with host JC & child psychologist Priyanka Jagasia.
1. Tantrums Aren’t Bad Behavior — They’re a Cry for Help
Children don’t throw tantrums to manipulate; they do it because their brains are overwhelmed. Until the prefrontal cortex (logic center) is fully developed, kids can’t regulate emotions like adults. What they need is co-regulation—not control.
2. When Logic Kicks In: Understanding Brain Development
Around age 6–8, the logical part of the brain begins to mature, but emotional impulses still dominate. Expecting rational behavior during stress is unrealistic before the brain has developed those capabilities.
3. Id, Ego, Superego: The Inner Conflict of Growing Up
Freud’s theory still holds relevance—children operate mostly from the Id (instincts). As parents, fostering the Ego (balance) through supportive structures helps children grow without shame.
4. The Silent Damage: Parenting Under Stress
Emotionally unavailable or chronically stressed parents unintentionally create high-alert nervous systems in their kids. Over time, this affects a child’s ability to feel safe, trust others, and form healthy attachments.
5. Your Inner Child Is Still Parenting
Your childhood experiences—especially unresolved emotions—shape your parenting style. Whether it’s fear-based discipline or overcompensation, your triggers are often echoes of your own past.
6. Can Parenting Styles Change? Yes — And Here’s How
It’s never too late. Intentional parenting starts with awareness. Even simple changes—like saying “I’m sorry” or listening instead of reacting—can transform your bond with your child.
7. The Core Belief System: Where “I’m Not Good Enough” Begins
Core beliefs are often rooted in moments when kids felt ignored, punished, or misunderstood. These beliefs—“I’m bad,” “I don’t matter”—can last a lifetime if not gently rewritten through secure connection.
8. Why Early Years Shape Everything
The first 7 years of a child’s life lay the neurological foundation for identity, emotional processing, and stress response. What’s built in those years—especially through repetition and safety—becomes the subconscious script they live by.
9. When Kids Stop Talking: What’s Beneath the Silence
If your child or teen suddenly stops sharing, it’s usually not rebellion—it’s emotional withdrawal. The solution? Emotional safety, not interrogation.
Phrases That Reconnect:
- “I’m here when you’re ready to talk.”
- “I understand this is hard.”
- “You’re not alone in this.”
10. Apologizing Isn’t Weakness — It’s Wisdom
Saying sorry to your child teaches accountability, empathy, and models emotional maturity. It repairs ruptures and shows them that love isn’t fragile—it’s forgiving.
11. What Is Conscious Parenting?
It’s not about perfection. It’s about becoming aware of your own emotional patterns, responding instead of reacting, and seeing your child as a partner in emotional growth.
Deep Dive: Understanding Child Sexual Abuse
Impact on the Brain
Abuse causes chronic stress, activating fear circuits that impair emotional regulation, memory, and trust.
Behavioral Signs
- Sudden withdrawal
- Age-inappropriate sexual behavior
- Anxiety or regression
- Avoidance of specific people or places
Why Don’t Kids Speak Up?
Shame. Confusion. Fear. Often, the child doesn’t even realize what happened was wrong.
Prevention & Safe Conversations
When to Start Talking About Good/Bad Touch
As early as age 2–3. Use anatomically correct language and keep the tone calm, not fearful.
What Can Schools Do?
- Regular workshops
- Trained staff
- Open-door policies
- Anonymous reporting systems
What Can Parents Do?
- Create emotionally safe spaces
- Watch your reactions
- Listen, don’t panic
- Validate your child’s feelings
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Summary: Parenting Through Awareness, Not Perfection
Every child wants to feel safe, seen, and soothed. This episode of Scripted India offers not just answers, but tools to shift your parenting from reactive to responsive, from fear to connection.
Whether your child is throwing tantrums or withdrawing in silence, the first step is to understand what’s going on beneath the surface.
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