How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty: 6 Confident Ways To Do It

How to say no?

For some people, saying no is very difficult. They just can’t say no and end up taking responsibilities that should have been avoided.

This is the reason they fear what people would say about them when they deny a request or responsibility. They fear losing people and colleagues if they fail to do something for them. Their agreement comes from their fear of being judged as selfish or inconsiderate, agreeing to things they wouldn’t want to do in the first place.

The problem is that, when we agree to all of them, we end up resenting not only the other party but also ourselves for having agreed to do something that we never wanted or needed to do. So rather than keeping our word, we wiggled out by avoiding that person who would have needed us to do something for him, since by then it was no longer convenient.

So, how do you do it? How to say ‘no’ without feeling guilty? And how will this one ‘no’ improve your life?

Well, quite a lot, actually:

1. Be honest
   Just because someone asks you for something doesn’t mean you have to give it to them. If you are too busy or really uninterested in what he or she offers, there’s nothing wrong with saying this!
2. Be nice about it, but not timid to be firm!
   If they are asking for something that is legitimately beyond your scope or jurisdiction, don’t be vague; just say no. Now, one doesn’t want to be rude, but if they continue pushing after you have said no once or twice already, then perhaps it’s time to cut off communication completely and move on with your day (or night).
3. Respect their feelings when they will be disappointed by your answer!
   This, at first, might sound a bit weird since, after all, they are the ones who asked for something in the first place. but, in fact, be kind and empathetic toward their disappointment instead of getting all defensive or dismissive about it—just let that slide.
4. Make sure you actually say no; not maybe.
   If somebody asks if they can borrow your pen and you said maybe, they might think that is a yes. If they ask again later, and you say no, they might feel offended because they thought they had permission before.
5. Be honest with yourself about why you’re saying no, and express it clearly to others when asked.
6. Respect other peoples’ time and effort; for if anything takes so long or is too difficult, let them know so that they decide with all facts of whether they can afford to continue pursuit of the project or idea at hand.

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You will finally say no to so many things, and then you will realize that it really does make your life so much better in so many ways.

1. Saving time with saying “no.”
   Time is something of much worth in our lives. The more time we lose on not really important things, the more time remains for our own selves, family, friends. When you deny yourself something meaningless, you gain another chunk of time for something that does matter!
2. Saying no creates room for the other opportunities.
   If you say yes to every help plea on a project—even when you don’t really have the time to do so—you’re setting yourself up to limit yourself from ever experiencing new opportunities simply because there’s no room for them!
3. Think if it is worth his time before jumping onto this idea.
   You are able to go ahead and focus on your goals without having that guilt churning in your stomach over not helping another person as much as you would have been doing if you just said yes, right?

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Learning how to say no can be quite the daunting task, especially in a case where one feels like another person’s happiness is pegged on them. But seriously, unless you get to learn how to turn people down, you are going to find yourself doing everything but the important things in life. Say no, and people get over it. The key is making sure what you are saying yes to is worth your time.